Do I Need a Family Coach?

 Unlocking the Power of Intentional Parenting

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“How do I know if I need a family coach?” is a question I get asked frequently when I introduce myself as a family coach. Not to say I haven’t met my share of critics of my humble profession. Just recently, while at the library with my toddler during an open play session, a parent, upon hearing my discussion about my work, remarked, “No offense, but I don’t believe in parenting books or in parenting experts telling me how to raise my child. I just follow my instincts, and I believe I’m doing well.” 

While I took no offense to her remark, this encounter made me reflect on the two types of parents I often encounter: Intentional Parents and Unintentional Parents.

Intentional Parents are those who actively think about their parenting choices. They seek to understand their children’s needs, emotions, and behaviors. They are open to self-discovery and growth, often putting in the effort to be the best version of themselves as parents.

Unintentional Parents, on the other hand, rely heavily on instinct, often navigating parenting day by day without a structured plan. They may feel comfortable with their approach, but without reflection, they might overlook areas for improvement. Some even recognize the need for change but find themselves caught in a web of excuses that seem reasonable at the moment.

So, back to the question I get asked frequently, “How do I know if I need a Family Coach?”

You might assume that unintentional parents are the ones who require a family coach. However, I’m here to tell you that it’s often the intentional parents who truly benefit from coaching. These parents are already committed to being proactive and thoughtful in their parenting. They understand that parenting is a complex journey that demands continuous learning and flexibility.

Family coaching isn’t just for those who feel lost or overwhelmed; it’s for parents who want to deepen their understanding of themselves and their children. Just as individuals seek career coaches to excel in their professions, or athletes seek professional coaches to hone on their athletic skills, parents hire family coaches to ensure they’re getting the support they need to be the best parent they were born to be.

They know they only get one shot at parenting and want to do it right.

That is not to say that unintentional parents can’t be coached, but for them to benefit the most from coaching, they need to take the leap of intentionality before they hire a coach.

The Consequences of Unintentional Parenting

For those parents who dismiss the value of parenting experts, research, and education, their journey may be filled with challenges that lead to questions like, “Where did I go wrong?” or “Why is my relationship with my adult children strained?” Often, they might attribute these issues to external factors instead of reflecting on their unintentional parenting style.

The reality is that parenting requires self-awareness and a willingness to grow. Without intentional effort, parents may find themselves struggling with the ups and downs of raising children.

With all that being said, if you’re an intentional parent looking to enhance your skills, gain insights, and ensure that you’re on the path you are designed to be on, seeking the support of a family coach can be incredibly beneficial. Embracing this journey of self-discovery and growth not only enriches your parenting experience but also lays a solid foundation for your children’s future.

So, how do you know if you need a family coach? If you’re committed to being the best parent you can be and are open to exploring new strategies and perspectives, then the answer is likely you need one!

Together, we can create a nurturing environment that empowers your family to thrive.